Why is talking about a celebrities mental health easier than talking about our own, and how can we learn from this?
This week, I was sadly awakened by two major headlines: 2 celebrities who died by suicide, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. From my Instagram, Snapchat, and Facebook, all my followers, friends, and contacts had something to say, and to be completely honest, I was quite disappointed.
Before you object, I have been and will always be a huge supporter and fan of both Spade and Bourdain. With a majority of my purses and wallets by Kate Spade, and my travel and food inspiration rooting from Layover and Parts Unknown, their deaths do not go unnoticed.
What makes me sad about this past week on social media is that society is so quick to grieve and support those in whom they do not know personally. A conversation that seems pretty difficult to share for most, was surprisingly easy to post as a Facebook status or Instagram story.
Death affects us all very differently, and I do not want to impose my opinions or judge how we individually morn. However, what I struggled with this week, is that many of us are quick to jump on the bandwagon and post about what’s popular in the media when everyone else is talking about, instead of talking about it during the low times.
We all have mental health. The state of our mental health is what we need to focus on and understand. Just as we shouldn’t only celebrate our parent’s on Father’s Day and Mother’s Day or only tell our significant other we love them on Valentine’s.
While any conversation regarding mental health serves a benefit to at least one person, even if that person is yourself, I am saddened that it takes highly publicized events like #BellLetsTalk or tragic events of a celebrity taking their own life to get people talking. It is not okay to only face these situations when it is popular to talk about, and plead ignorance, while it is happening every single day.
Keeping quiet and ignoring your mental health is just as dangerous as watching from the sidelines while someone you love or respect or even just know goes through the motions their mental health deteriorating. This week, I urge you to be an engaged advocated for your mental health and your peers, not a spectator.
I had a really enlightening conversation with my friend earlier this week, and he agreed with the spectator aspect of mental health, and how too many people are only participating in the conversation when it is popular in the headlines.
Sometimes, adversity is needed to learn a lesson and count a blessing. With that being said, in all adversity there’s a lesson and a blessing. You’ll need to keep your head up at all times and you’ll learn, see, and accept the lesson and the blessing.
My friends, we are all contributors of society. Please do not wait until it is too late to talk about how you are feeling or check in on a friend. There is no embarrassment in telling someone you are not okay. I can absolutely guarantee you, you are not alone in the struggle. I’m still searching to find light during dark times, but I know it will be okay. Take my word for it, we can get through anything. Trust in yourself, your family, and your friends. Let’s start talking and KEEP talking.
You may not know me personally, or maybe we do know each other but are not close. Maybe I’m not the person that needs to assure you this, but positivity, light, love, and hope can come from anywhere. Can you be that for someone?