Day 1: know your worth
Oh god, I can’t believe I’m starting a blog post with a Drake lyric, BUT let’s talk about the relevance of the line, “know yourself, know your worth,” and how it relates to today’s post of surrounding yourself with good friggen people.
I sometimes need to remind myself of this, but know how important you are, whether or not it’s obvious that day. You have a purpose and you make an impact in the world, no matter how big or small it is! This isn’t just a post to hype myself up, but it takes a while to understand and sometimes comprehend that you matter. AND if you don’t know that, and you aren’t able to remind yourself that- you need to surround yourself with people who know that and appreciate that!
I am so, so fortunate to have friends who understand and care. Sometimes, I do feel pretty alone in my day to day, but I am reminded that I have a circle of friends that care for me. I do have a small circle, and that’s all I need. Whether I met them through school, work, or we’re related, I am very fortunate.
The advice I want to share is in order to have an open, genuine relationship with your friends, you just to be honest, no bullshit. Lay it all out on the table. What is the point of being friends with someone if you can only share your highs, and not your lows? I know it takes a while to get to this point with friends, but I think that in order to be truly happy and experience the joy that true, good friends can bring, is to be honest. And if they can’t handle it, or carry the stigma that it’s not okay, maybe those aren’t the friends you need to surround yourself with…
Today, I’m not having my best day, and I want to address that. I didn’t sleep much and had to cancel plans on friends. Just one of those days, I guess. I feel super guilty about that, because I hate having to flop on plans. *Just a forewarning, I worry and have guilty consciousness for the smallest of situations. I tend to pick situations apart and really analyze them, and tend to put a lot of the blame on myself. Usually it’s not until a friend pulls me back down to reality and explains to me that it IS going to be okay.
Sometimes, you need this gentle reminder from friends that life is friggen good man, and even when it feels like the end of the world, they’re there to assure you it’s not.
I’m thankful to have loving friends and family that I depend on, even when I feel like I’m being annoying and have too much to say. Family that you’re friends with is so important, as well, and I’ve really learned that this year. Being able to call cousins that are like sisters to me is one of the most special relationships I hold so close to my heart.
In addition to all this, it’s okay to have friends who aren’t going through the same journey you are. As long as they have a piece of their heart that is open to learning about your journey, and don’t shut down as soon as you need them. Not everyone is capable of this- and that’s okay! We all have different values in each one of our friendships. And sometimes our journey is too tough in itself to completely open up. It took me a while to realize this, and I’m so happy I did.
And that’s how I’m feeling today.